Thursday, March 16, 2023

My values

The most rewarding professional activity I have engaged in this year was working with a leadership team to develop our company values.

We’re working to incorporate them in everything we do. At our weekly all-team kickoff we give values shout-outs to people who have exhibited them in their work.

This exercise prompted me to clarify my own values, and I thought I’d share them here. Just doing this is a hard proof point for no. 3 (“authenticity, inward and outward”).

  • Truth—“When a man lies he murders some part of the world.” Without this everything falls apart. Lying makes me feel like shit, being lied to is the worst. So strive for truth, always.
  • Integrity. Do the right thing, even when it's hard, and no one is watching.
  • Authenticity, inward and outward—I’m the only one of me, I’m worthy of love, so I’m choosing to be me. Not being a chameleon in various people’s company, but bringing my unique self to everything I do. When you stop worrying what others think you free up huge headspace and feel liberated/empowered. Be true within; project that truth out.
  • Seek connection—relationships create meaning. Family and friends, community, are what make a meaningful life. Giving back to others is inherently rewarding. Strive for connection—whether that is fun/bringing joy, or something deeper. I’m a natural introvert and enjoy time alone to recharge, but the best times in my life have been in the company of others.
  • One life—You’ve only got one life, so don’t waste it, be productive. If something needs doing, do it right, and soon. Staying busy makes me happy. That also means operating with intention in everything I do, even my free time. Read the book on that Saturday afternoon; take the vacation. Enjoy it.
  • Stay positive—There is too much negativity in the world. Twitter has forgotten that life is beautiful. Adopt a positive mindset. Rather than attacking others, assume the best in other people and treat them well. It’s a better operating system, and it also makes you a more likeable person.

If you haven’t done this for yourself, I recommend it. It’s not easy—they’re an operating system, they don’t change with the wind, so you’re not going to whip these out in five minutes. 

But if you don’t operate with clearly defined values, someone else will make you operate by theirs.

I don’t always hit the mark. But they give me something to aim at.

3 comments:

Travis Miller said...

Nice post. It's a good practice to do something like that and revisit it from time to time.

Brian Murphy said...

Thanks man... I had never fully articulated these prior, in a way that I would remember them and have them available as a signpost. Very valuable exercise.

John said...

Values to live and work by, Brian. I hope they take some of your suggestions to heart. I worked for local county government for 18 years and management (or in this case, executive) philosophy and behavioral directives were almost always from the top down. In my capacity, I had many opportunities to share what I thought were valid suggestions, but they usually fell on deaf ears. More than once my ideas were appropriated into their own ideas. I also worked for the defense industry and other corporations and it was much the same. I came to accept all this but it never kept me from speaking my piece! Thankfully, that's all in the past and it's become just a ho-hum memory.